I remember the first time I had a big conflict with my platonic soul mate, I couldn't understand where the cracks lay and why we were arguing. The whole friendship was imploding and all I wanted to do was run. We talked, cried, talked, cried and resolved our issues at the end. At the end, the friendship is better for it and we are better communicators. It was one of the hardest things I had to do but it was also the best.
This was a great post. I’ve always struggled letting people know how i feel. I don’t want to be a bother, you know? Plus i’m also an introvert and sort of a loner. I like hanging out with my friends, but most of the time i like being by myself. It’s hard to balance it. To be honest, if they didn’t engage first, i might never see them lol. Pretty bad lol. I also don’t date, so being a good communicator has never been a top priority to practice. Also, i’m much better at writing down my feelings and speaking them. I guess we’re all a big mess, trying to get better every day.
trust me i get it haha it's such a challenge for me to instigate anything and i've really had to practice a lot with the people i'm close to! but i've found it's been really beneficial the more i practice and it's really improved both my own mental health and my relationships! you do what you can and we meet people where they are - no shame in being on your own either! i think weirdly enough as i've gotten older i've turned into more of an extrovert than i ever thought possible (i'm still very introverted though don't get me wrong haha)
This is so well written!! I love how you saw and wrote about both sides and how its hard sometimes to be open and vulnerable and that doesn’t mean it’s not going to create healthier relationships (and that it’s a risk we have to be willing to take). I think it’s a lot easier in your teenaged years to create and keep close friendships because so much can go unnoticed, and that communication is something that I learned as I grew up (certainly still have to work on it) but one life long friend I had wasn’t putting in the same effort to communicate properly & maintain that friendship & I was more reactive than I should’ve been & it all just fell apart. I look back on it now & can see what I could have done differently, but even during this fight I could tell this friend had no responsibility for how they were handling it. Anyways I absolutely loved this piece!!
It's hard because a lot of times I think relationships do fall apart because of issues on both sides. Rarely is anybody blameless - but I think certain people do fail to recognize how their actions affect others and it's...frustrating to say the least haha thank you for reading!!!!
Lovely lovely lovely-- this is so SZA' 20 Something.
I remember the first time I had a big conflict with my platonic soul mate, I couldn't understand where the cracks lay and why we were arguing. The whole friendship was imploding and all I wanted to do was run. We talked, cried, talked, cried and resolved our issues at the end. At the end, the friendship is better for it and we are better communicators. It was one of the hardest things I had to do but it was also the best.
i'm so glad you guys got to work out!!! it's so hard but it's a testament to yall's relationship that you worked at it and made it through!!
This was a great post. I’ve always struggled letting people know how i feel. I don’t want to be a bother, you know? Plus i’m also an introvert and sort of a loner. I like hanging out with my friends, but most of the time i like being by myself. It’s hard to balance it. To be honest, if they didn’t engage first, i might never see them lol. Pretty bad lol. I also don’t date, so being a good communicator has never been a top priority to practice. Also, i’m much better at writing down my feelings and speaking them. I guess we’re all a big mess, trying to get better every day.
trust me i get it haha it's such a challenge for me to instigate anything and i've really had to practice a lot with the people i'm close to! but i've found it's been really beneficial the more i practice and it's really improved both my own mental health and my relationships! you do what you can and we meet people where they are - no shame in being on your own either! i think weirdly enough as i've gotten older i've turned into more of an extrovert than i ever thought possible (i'm still very introverted though don't get me wrong haha)
This is so well written!! I love how you saw and wrote about both sides and how its hard sometimes to be open and vulnerable and that doesn’t mean it’s not going to create healthier relationships (and that it’s a risk we have to be willing to take). I think it’s a lot easier in your teenaged years to create and keep close friendships because so much can go unnoticed, and that communication is something that I learned as I grew up (certainly still have to work on it) but one life long friend I had wasn’t putting in the same effort to communicate properly & maintain that friendship & I was more reactive than I should’ve been & it all just fell apart. I look back on it now & can see what I could have done differently, but even during this fight I could tell this friend had no responsibility for how they were handling it. Anyways I absolutely loved this piece!!
It's hard because a lot of times I think relationships do fall apart because of issues on both sides. Rarely is anybody blameless - but I think certain people do fail to recognize how their actions affect others and it's...frustrating to say the least haha thank you for reading!!!!